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To Whom It May Concern:I'm sure as successful and savvy women you can understand and relate to the frustration and annoyance of people "checking your pockets" at times. You know those people who seem to always have something to say other than a compliment when you have something they don't. Now I'm not usually one too complain over meaningless comments or opinions, but the one thing that does annoy me is when people speak out of pocket all the while looking into yours.
My theory is this, if you do not bare the title of that person’s mom or their nicely compensated financial advisor then you should not be concerned with how much they paid for something or how they choose to spend their money.
Success comes at a price and how one chooses to pay that price is their business. If they opt to drive a luxury car because they can and want to - fine. If they choose to invest in real estate because they can - fine. If they decide to take more than one vacation a year because they can - fine. And if they chose to invest in designer bags because they can - fine (side note: yes I said invest because Louis Vuitton and Gucci last a lifetime! -lol). As you can see the operative word here is can - and since that's what matters at the end of the day - can you please tell folks to stay out of our pockets...
Fabulously yours,
Rashana A. Hooks
P.S. If you are in any way offended by this letter then you have most likely been out of pocket.:)
5 comments:
Girl, buy that bag if you want to!
I find that most people who are in my pockets have no idea what they're talking about. They see me carrying a designer bag or wearing a certain piece of jewelry and either assume that I'm materialistic and/or make alot of money, or that I might be living beyond my means.
Most of the most expensive things I own are gifts. I'm very generous with my money, but usually not on myself. I'll buy an expensive bag or piece of jewelry for my mother or sister without blinking, but will leave it in the store when it comes to myself because I can't justify the expense.
But I work hard for my money, and that should be justification enough. I'm not materialistic nor do I live beyond my means. I'm a saver, and most would dare to call me cheap. But at the same time, I wish I would step out of my comfort zone and splurge on myself once in a while with luxurious investments. It's something I struggle with all the time, but lately I've been taking that vacation - even if it means going by myself.
People should worry about their own finances and how they live THEIR lives instead of how other people live theirs. Like you said, unless it's your financial advisor telling you to stop spending yourself out of house and home, everyone else should mind their own beeswax!
OMG- does this article speak the truth or what?????? I made a promise to myself a few years ago that I would stay out of other people's bank accounts and I truly wish others would stay out of mine!!!
Sooo true @ "yes I said invest because Louis Vuitton and Gucci last a lifetime! -lol"!!
No offense at all. And no mam I have not been out of pocket. Sometimes folks just want to be nosy and ultimately there will always be people who'll sponge and suck you dry if you let it cause it's all in a day's work for them.
Why work hard for mine when I can take some of yours?
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Wish me luck Diva!
Tanisha
Well, Ladies, I beg to differ on this issue. First of all, sometimes the "financial advise" is not meant as controlling someone's bank account but as an observation. Especially, when the individual is insecure and attempting to surround himself and/or herself with material possessions to feel better about themselves. I have a big issue with being unwise as we age. When you are in your 20s and 30s, there can remain a window of opportunity for recovery but as we age those hustling days dwindled. Yeah, I got a problem with fronting into front of hoodrats. Keep it real and in your safety deposit boxes, bank accounts and real estate investments and most of all, yourself and your family.
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